I grew up on a dead end street. For over 70 years, the red and white house at the end of Olive Avenue was home to my parents and, in the early decades, my three siblings and me. I am the oldest, and our ages span nine years. Growing up in the 1950s in rural Nebraska, our basic needs were generously met. Our mom stayed home to care for us, and our dad worked at the Thayer County Bank. It was an idyllic childhood in most respects.
Our parents built the house in 1953 after a tornado wiped out their previous home (and most of the town). We were the only family that ever lived at 1140 Olive Avenue. The house is located at the top of a hill and is surrounded by fields to the north and east. Three other families were part of the “dead end gang.” It was a tightly knit community and as kids we moved about in a pack from one house to the next. As my brother recently wrote, “It was a wonderful place to grow up.”
When I think back on our childhood, freedom was a major theme. Freedom to roam, to explore, to create, to have a childhood that allowed us to grow into the humans we’ve become. Our house was part of that freedom, and even more, the land around it. For me, the house was where many of the available resources were kept. I had free access to fabric, drawing materials, paint, wood, nails, hammers, saws, cardboard, paper of all kinds, and a sewing machine. My favorite place to create was at my dad’s workbench in the basement. Coloring books were not allowed in our home, so everything we drew or created was our own.
We all had expanded imaginations, in large part because of the time and space we were given to make up our own worlds, especially outside in our yard or the adjacent fields. One of our most beloved worlds was “the Stream,” a town we created with the neighbor kids by flooding a ditch along a row of trees behind the house. We had equal opportunities to pretend in the winter time, as snow drifts morphed into caves and tunnels. We had access to the four elements in varying degrees as we shaped the earth with our hands, flooded our creations with water, lit an occasional fire, and let the wind carry us across the water in a makeshift boat. The natural world was our classroom from which we drew life long lessons that shaped who we have each become.
The Seed is a direct expression of my childhood at 1140 Olive Avenue. The freedom we give children to interact with nature, to play with sand and water on a daily basis is linked to my Nebraska home. The time and materials we give children to be makers and creators are also tied to the way I spent my earliest days.
Following the deaths of both our parents in the past fourteen months, the sale of our family home was finalized this week. A new family will move in and make it their home. It’s a season of huge letting go for us, and it is comforting to know that other children will have access to the place that significantly shaped our childhood. Knowing that the essence of 1140 Olive Avenue will live on at Awakening Seed also brings me joy. Generations of children will be influenced by seeds planted years ago at the dead end of a street, cultivated by love.
Hello Mary,
This post is so lovely. What beautiful and inspiring memories. I’m so sorry for your lose of this home and your parents. You’re in my thoughts and wishes for healing.
Take special care.
Pam Leber
Oh Mary,
A sad yet pivotal opportunity. Sending hugs.
Debbie
Your above story says so well how you came to be the person you are- the one so beloved by many for your wisdom, your love for the arts and creator of art, and for how you have cared for the lives (heart, mind, physicality) of so many of our children- mine included! May the new owners of 1140 Olive Ave be as fortunate as you were to live and thrive there with your family!
Thank you, Susan. Jessica was such a wonderful Seed.
I LOVED the “stream”!!! We played for hours. I also loved that your swings had a sand pit for a soft landing when we made flying leaps off the swing seats! And the “pole house” your dad made for summer sleep overs. Best back yard in the neighborhood!
The assortment of treehouses on the neighborhood was impressive.
Well said, Mary…you have been truly blessed with a very special family that has made a difference in many lives.
Question here, do you recall when the basketball hoop went up on the dead end? There were lots of great pick-up games there that fostered a competitive spirit for sure!
I’d guess mid-50s.
Mary, what a beautiful start to you. It explains so much about the fantastic world you gave to the seedlings to start their lives. I’m so grateful for all the love and lessons given to my girls. Forever grateful…
What a lovely childhood that continues to benefit the Seed Community today as it is easy to relate your experiences to the opportunities you have provided to the students. Thank you for sharing your memories.
Mary,
Beautiful tribute to your family & the freedom of life growing up in rural NE. Your Parents were an inspiration to many of us & will be remembered for their contributions, ideas & volunteer hours given to help our rural communities thrive!